Narcissists Part II: Reclaim & Rebuild

Narcissists Part II: Reclaim & Rebuild

Narcissists. Round dos. After years of abuse, reclaiming your life and developing confidence in your own decisions should be your priority. The sad truth is, your narcissist formed a codependent relationship with you, and you will feel about as...

Narcissists: Part 1

Narcissists: Part 1

Narcissists. They’re everywhere. Many of them are well-loved, charming, charismatic people with devoted followers. In fact, they have a line of would-be followers that seems endless. The chances are high that you’ve dated one, and for the focus...

Letters Never Sent

Letters Never Sent

I read a lot about divorce. A lot. There’s good information out there, and then there’s absolute crap. Many sites post stuff I just consider “filler.” I usually skim over the filler and head for the information I need to...

Balance of Light and Dark

Balance of Light and Dark

We’ve crossed that threshold: autumn. It still feels like summer here in Arkansas, but the balance of light and dark tipped over into darkness with the autumnal equinox. We can look forward to football and scarves; we can embrace the...

Divorce Support

Divorce Support

This blog so often deals with topics pertaining to divorce, and within most of our paragraphs we mention something about support. Not everyone finds the support needed during and after divorce, however. Sometimes family members and friends...

Divorce Diet and Your Health

Divorce Diet and Your Health

People say the oddest things when you divorce. It’s almost like they can’t stop themselves from showing a sincere lack of understanding of your situation, especially when you suddenly slim down:”You look good! Are you on the...

Contested vs. Uncontested

Contested vs. Uncontested

In the first stages of divorce it can be easy to see how the divorce will progress: couples have seen the uncoupling happening and are prepared to work together to end things as smoothly as possible, or the anger is almost palpable between the...

Stress During Divorce

Stress During Divorce

I read in Psychology Today how the death of a spouse rated at 100 on this official stress scale, but divorce registered at 73. The author of this article, one Susan Pease Gadoua, disagreed; she thought divorce scored more like 100 and argued that...

Social Security and Grey Divorce

Social Security and Grey Divorce

If you are divorcing and your marriage lasted ten years or longer, this blog is for you; If you are a virtual voyeur, this blog also might be for you.  There’s a trend in blogs and articles now to cover a topic known now as the “grey...

Let Them Eat Cake!

Let Them Eat Cake!

I’m pretty sure Paul Hollywood and Mary Berry from The Great British Baking Show would have plenty to say about the new bakes trending at divorce parties. Yes, divorce parties. It sounds pretty gauche to hold a party celebrating the end of...